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09 July 2007 @ 12:26 pm
Dominik Diamond - again.  

Huh. Amazing what vanity searching and meta crawlers can do online innit?

I posted this last week in which I wasn't particularly complimentary to Dominik Diamond, ex-breakfast presenter on XFM Scotland. I perhaps didn't make my point clearly enough, what I thought at the time was that in the tone of his email (which I still feel was a semi-automated one) he was being confrontational and bitchy about people to whom he seemed to have no animosity whilst he was on air. Perhaps I shouldn't have called him an arse or said he could bite me. I found his original email to be off putting and - in the complete reverse of the intention - it made me disinclined to follow his career in the future.

I shared that in a public forum (this very LiveJournal) and was a tad derogatory and potentially hurtful.

This morning I got an email from a personal email address (as opposed to the automated one I originally received). From Mr Diamond. The subject line reads one word: nice

Dear Shona

I was alerted to your panning of me on your website. A trifle harsh of you I think. You sent me an email saying how much you’d enjoyed my stuff. I merely told you what I was doing next as given the tone of your email I thought you would like to know. Sorry you felt this was such a biteable crime.

 Yours sincerely 

Dominik Diamond

So yes, I was a trifle harsh, however his original (and I'll say it again, automated) email was equally harsh - not to me, but to his previous colleagues and employers.

So Domink? I'm again posting this on this public forum to say this, I apologise for insulting you. I could say this wasn't my intention, but to be honest, the thought did not cross my mind. I failed to think of you as a person and for that I am sorry. I still think the original email from you had the exact opposite effect of that which you intended - it put my back up, it made you come across as uncaring and ready to sling mud. That doesn't excuse my insulting you, or denying you humanity.

I did mean what I said in the original email (which was sent through the online webform and as such I don't have a copy with the exact wording) I did enjoy your show, you introduced me to music which I might otherwise not have heard and enjoyed, you brought issues which pertain to me to the fore. Because of things said on your show I have become more open about my depression and the possibility that I am Bipolar. You did that.

I do wish you luck in the future, and again, I apologise for objectifying you.

ETA - I have sent this link and the main text of the post in reply to the email, and whilst I would never ask any of you to censor your comments or thoughts, please keep in mind that the subject of this post may read what you have to say. And indeed read what I had to say last week.
Current Mood: calmcalm
bob_bobbingbob_bobbing on July 9th, 2007 11:56 am (UTC)
Hey, that is pretty impressive though that your blog is noticed by the (semi-)famous and powerful!
the girl who used to dance on fire and brimstone: annie hall//forgot my mantra - mewhiskyinmind on July 9th, 2007 12:03 pm (UTC)
The email this morning really did make me step back and think. For all of the celebrities I've had the good fortune to meet in the past, for all the fandom sites I run, I've still always assumed I flew under the radar in that respect.

It just goes to show that things said online - even in unobtrusive places online - should contain as much human decency and common courtesy as would be shown to a person's face.

and I was joking with aditu_az the other week about what would happen if Steve Carlson happened to read either of our LJs!
monkey_matt: Lens - monkey_mattmonkey_matt on July 9th, 2007 12:04 pm (UTC)
Sheesh. That's a bit 1984, isn't it? You can't get away with anything these days...

the girl who used to dance on fire and brimstone: annie hall//forgot my mantra - mewhiskyinmind on July 9th, 2007 12:08 pm (UTC)
It's not so much 'getting away with it'. I was a little rude about his email and I did so in a public forum in a way that could be hurtful. If someone said the things about me that I said about him, I'd be devasted.

I didn't think, and although I still stand by the reaction I had to the original email, I did objectify him and I wa hurtful. So I'm making a public apology for personally insulting the man. I still feel that his original email to me (the automated one) caused a similar reaction in me - I was insulted on behalf of the people he seemed to be attacking.

I've sent him the link to this post by the way. Just to let you know.
monkey_matt: Dark Side - monkey_mattmonkey_matt on July 9th, 2007 12:14 pm (UTC)
So... not a good idea to start writing anything scandalous? ;-P

No - I understand exactly where you're coming from. It wouldn't do to cause unnecessary hurt. I switched from Radio 1 because the DDBS was so darn funny. Oh, and cos of Mr. Moyles' obsession with the England football team during the world cup... Gr.
the girl who used to dance on fire and brimstone: annie hall//forgot my mantra - mewhiskyinmind on July 9th, 2007 12:20 pm (UTC)
You just have to put your hands on the keyboard to write something scandalous...

You're the one who got me to listen to XFM in the first place, the music programming is the main draw for me it has to be said, but Dominik (and other DJs on the station) were good enough to keep me tuning in. And like I said in the post, they managed to touch on topics which brought things to the fore in a way I can't imagine any other light-hearted radio show doing.
monkey_matt: Prawn - monkey_mattmonkey_matt on July 9th, 2007 12:54 pm (UTC)
Well, one does try...

the girl who used to dance on fire and brimstone: dw//this icon likes bananas - martoufmarwhiskyinmind on July 9th, 2007 12:57 pm (UTC)
You should change the text on that icon to pr0n. Make it more apparent.

monkey_matt: DB9 - monkey_mattmonkey_matt on July 9th, 2007 01:12 pm (UTC)
It's not like you to be so intolerant - it's only a homonym. What's wrong with you? Are you Homonymophobic or something?

'Sides. Already got a 'prOn'-icon. *points*
the girl who used to dance on fire and brimstone: asylum//front row brain/justin - purplepwhiskyinmind on July 9th, 2007 01:17 pm (UTC)
yeah, but car pr0n and the homonomonomonym prawn are different things. (Yes, I'm like Nanny Ogg, I know how to start spelling it, it's stopping that's the problem...)
monkey_matt: Dark Side - monkey_mattmonkey_matt on July 9th, 2007 01:29 pm (UTC)
(That's always been your problem...)

Oh Castiel!: impala-peekaboosmeckles90 on July 9th, 2007 12:13 pm (UTC)
I have this sudden uncontrollable urge to sing "It's a small world after all"
the girl who used to dance on fire and brimstone: spn//metallicar - iamnotkriswhiskyinmind on July 9th, 2007 12:17 pm (UTC)
Hee! I have to admit, I never once considered that this would be read by him - or anyone who knows him. And that's just silly in a way - everyone vanity searches on Google, it's something we all do. I mentioned his name, of course it's going to get a hit on a vanity search.

And Scotland's not exactly a *big* country, chances are he and I are only six people seperated from each other.

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the girl who used to dance on fire and brimstone: annie hall//forgot my mantra - mewhiskyinmind on July 9th, 2007 12:31 pm (UTC)
Thank you - you've just managed to put into words what I've now made two kinda long posts trying to get across.

Again - thank you!

unrelated note, this het fic won't leave me alone...
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the girl who used to dance on fire and brimstone: spn//dean laptop smirk - mewhiskyinmind on July 9th, 2007 12:56 pm (UTC)
You do indeed have your uses. *nods*

It does indeed seem to be a blurring/confusion/disassociation of personas - and hell, with my mental health history, I'm the last person to judge that kind of thing. As a public figure Dominik has taken on that responsibility - he is 'more' than a regular person by dint of the fact that he is in (and puts himself in) the public spotlight. As you say, different people deal with it in different ways - Jensen is the perfect example of someone who has a very distinct dividing line between public and private.

I have a Word doc open and notes in my notepad. I think this will have to be written - evil het fic... Thank you! I may be taking you up on the beta offer before you realise it, it's kinda dark though. As befits evil SPN het...*g*
Sentimental yet sardonicbooster17 on July 9th, 2007 10:28 pm (UTC)
Must admit to being guilty myself at times of not considering that there are actual real human beings behind things that entertain us/frustrate us at times. Sometimes we go too far in condemning someone for the flaws in things that may not have been entirely their fault.

It's something I see a lot on the various comic forums around the net, and it's always, always a surprise when they bite back.

We're only human, alas. So are they.